...a lot of "wedding" or "love" songs express fundamental false or troubling sentiments. "You are my everything"? False. "I can't live without you"? False. "You're an angel who can do no wrong"? Waaaay false. "I would do anything for you"? Nope. "I need you"? Eh, kinda? I mean, I rely on him, sure, but I know I can live without him--I've done it for 28 years!
I didn't fall in love with him the moment I met him, I wasn't miserable until he came along, and I don't think I love him more than anyone else has ever loved anyone else in the history of the universe. We didn't break up and then reunite. I never almost lost him. Our physical relationship has not outpaced our commitment, so all those songs about watching one another sleeping or lying beside one another and suddenly realizing you want to get married . . . that never happened. Plus, I don't really go in for the whole "falling in love" thing. I mean, you love someone. Being in love with them . . . what is that? Chemistry? Attraction? Lust? Some subjective feeling that is at best unreliable and impossible to quantify? And the songs that talk about how you couldn't help falling in love with someone? How you were/are powerless to resist the throes of passion or whatever? How is that helpful? What's to stop you from uncontrollably falling in love with someone else? Me no likey. And even songs that promise to be together through eternity . . . they're false. Marriage is temporary. One or both of you will die, and in heaven the only marriage is that of Christ and His bride, the church.
So I guess what I'm really looking for is a song that says "You're awesome, I'm glad you came along (though even if you hadn't, God would still have been enough, but it was awfully nice of him to bring us together), and I choose to love you, and I'm looking forward to being married to you for the rest of one of our lives."
Oh, and I want to be able to dance to it.
Is that so much to ask?
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